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Healing sex : a mind-body approach to healing sexual trauma

Staci Haines, Felice Newman (Editor)
"The first encouraging, sex-positive guide for all women survivors of sexual assault - heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, coupled, and single - who want to reclaim their sex lives. While most books on the topic broach sexuality only to reassure women that it is all right to say "no" to unwanted sex, Healing Sex encourages women to learn how to say "yes"--To their own desires and on their own terms. This mind-body approach to healing from sexual trauma was created by Staci Haines, who has been educating in the area of sexual abuse, sex education, and somatic healing for over 15 years. Her techniques are ideal for anyone looking for a new way to heal from trauma, beyond traditional talk therapy."-- Provided by publisher
eBook, English, 2007
Updated 2nd edition View all formats and editions
Cleis Press, San Francisco, California, 2007
1 online resource (xxxiv, 267 pages) : illustrations
9781573446099, 1573446092
947057367
Intro
Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma
Publishing Details
Acknowledgments
Dedication
Illustrations
Table of Contents
Introduction to the Second Edition
Introduction
Chapter 1: Safety, Somatics, and Sexual Healing
The Choice to Heal
Safety and Sexual Healing
What's Down This Road, Anyway?
Somebody to Lean On: Self-Care and Support
Somatics: Including Your Body in Healing
Safer Sex Getting
Started Sex
Guide Exercises
Chapter 2: Desire and Pleasure
Discovering Your Pleasure and Desire
Desire Is in Your Body Your Sexual Self-Education
The Complexity of Desire
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 3: Dissociation
Checking Out
Dissociation and You
The Road Back: Healing Dissociation
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 4: Self-Denial
Survival Is a Powerful Act
Sexual Aversion: Who Needs Sex, Anyway?
Sexual Compulsion: Sex as the Only Way
Healing Self-Denial
The End of Self-Denial
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 5: Sexual Response and Anatomy: Information Is Power
Where Did You Learn That?
Sex Information and Sexual Abuse
So What Is That Thing? A Lesson in Sexual Anatomy Sexual Response Cycle
Gynecological Issues
Your Body
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 6: Masturbation and Self-Healing
Self-Loving
A Bad Rap
Your Keystone to Healing
But I Don't Want to Masturbate
Five Steps to Great Masturbation
How to Touch Yourself
A Masturbation Date
Sex Toys, Fantasies, and Porn
Compulsive Masturbation
Mutual Masturbation
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 7: Consent and Boundaries:
The "Yes," "No," and "Maybe" of Sex
What Is Consent?
Sexual Abuse and Unwanted Sex
Embodied Consent
Informed Consent
Knowing What You Want Communicating Consent
"Yes," "No," and "Maybe" Vignettes
Negotiate Before You Play
Response from Others
Healthy Risks
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 8: Partner Sex
The Good, the Bad, and ... the Pleasurable?
Choosing Sexual Partners
Let's Talk About Sex
How to Meet Sexual Partners
Flirting and Kissing
Go Out There and Have Fun!
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 9: Oral Sex
Cunnilingus
The How-to's of Cunnilingus Cunnilingus and Triggers Fellatio
The How-to's of Fellatio Fellatio and Triggers Rimming
The How-to's of Rimming Safer Oral Sex Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 10: Penetration
Vaginal Penetration
The How-to's of Vaginal Penetration
Anal Penetration
The How-to's of Anal Penetration
Safer Penetration
Penetration and Triggers
Sex Guide Exercises
Chapter 11: Embracing Triggers
What Is a Trigger?
Map to Recovery
Embracing Triggers: This Way Out
Trigger Plan and Tools
Tell It Like It Is: Communication and Triggers
Safewords
Troubling Desire
Healing Triggers Outside of Partner Sex
Taking a Break from Sex
Sex Guide Exercise
Chapter 12: The Emotions of Healing